Hi, my name is Brad, welcome to Stepping Into Dads
Stepping Into Dads is a place where I will be sharing my journey into my role as a step parent, and all the things that have helped and supported me in becoming a step parent to two amazing boys. My Partner and I will be sharing our integrated, holistic approach to parenting and combine what we have learnt and experienced in our own personal lives and as a couple.
How Stepping into Dads came about
THE HERO'S JOURNEY
My inward journey
This began my inward journey and the search to find my own answers to the questions I had always seeked “Who am I?” and “What is my purpose here?” I deeply knew that living a fast-paced corporate life was never going to fill my soul. The inward journey has been a challenging one and it’s allowed me to travel to some incredible places and connect with amazing people. What I discovered in all my travels is; no matter where we are, or what we seek, the guru we are seeking is inside of ourselves and the answers lay within.
checking out from reality
My online business at the time, provided me the freedom to travel to the USA and spend time with some of the world’s most cutting-edge scientists and spiritual leaders. Up to this point, I had been single for almost 2-years, living on the road full-time with no responsibilities besides myself and beard. With this freedom, I found an incredible truth and peace within inside myself. I was at the point of checking out from reality to head to an ashram and mediate for the next 10-years.
The universe had a different plan...
That change of plan was Melissa, who is now my partner and her two crazy but beautiful boys are now a big part of my life and my purpose. Becoming a stepdad has been one of the most confronting, challenging but healing journeys of my life. The boys, although not biologically mine, have been a direct reflection and mirror of my own 6 to 8 year old self which has taken me on a deep healing journey of my inner child.
Healing my own inner child
The start of my relationship with Melissa and introduction to parenting has been nothing short of a rollercoaster, as life has thrown every challenge. We have supported each other through so many of life’s trials, from concussion to chicken pox, Melissa’s Dad Graeme’s open-heart surgery, her Mother Rhonda’s cancer journey and subsequent passing and recently my grandfather Holly’s passing.
My own, dark night of the soul
That had not even included all of life’s everyday, parenting challenges. To top it off in the midst of this, the loss of my business which unravelled my purpose, in turn resulted in my own dark night of the soul… what has all this done? Through these experiences even though challenging, it has been a huge gift of growth and we have gained so much to insight. It tested us as individuals, as a couple and a new family.